I'm treating my first two talks as a primer for what's coming now where I really buckle down. I let a lot of this get away from me and its upsetting because the happiness exercise was really yielding results. I'm also going to post a reflection about some of my experiences with the super better app. That has been a small revelation. Point is I'm not giving up on my little journey. And I'm spearheading the real adventure with a challenge based around one of my top five TED talks. Brene' Brown's The Power Of Vulnerability. Should TED talks be italicized? Who gives a shit.The point is that I'm a messy crazy character full of shenanigans and that's a beautiful thing. Here's the talks.
1. 30 days getting your ass kicked.
The Talks:
Kathryn Schultz: On
Being Wrong: The image that stuck with me from Kathryn’s talk was she
conjured the image of Wile Coyote not falling down until he realizes he fucked
up. Being wrong feels pretty awful and all we need to remind ourselves of that
is to look at that paper from elementary school where our teacher marks it up
with a red pen. Hell, maybe that happened recently. And our perceptions about
the person who wrote this paper are always negative. The idea is that if we get
something wrong there’s something wrong with us. That’s not case and it’s
important to abandon this internal sense of rightness. We have assumptions
about those who disagree with us. But what’s tragic is being wrong is the whole
point of being human and most people miss out on that.
Brene Brown: The
Power of Vulnerability Brown had
what she calls a breakdown when she realized that the people who let themselves
be seen were in fact the people who were more likely to find love. The
definition of courage really means to tell the story of who you are with your
whole heart. In order for connection to happen we have to let ourselves be
seen. The people who have a strong sense of love and belonging and the people
with a strong sense believe they are worthy of love and belonging. Its all pretty shocking because basically what it means is that if you're one of those lunatics always going on about what an emotional idiot you are, her prescription is basically to embrace that because you'll actually be better off. Because if you're like me or like miss Brown, you're full of vulnerabilities and insecurities but try to fight them off with a stick and usually just make them worse. This talk presents a more optimistic way of dealing with all that.
The Challenge: One
of the only times I got into a disagreement with my therapist is where he told
me he was not big on turning negatives into positives. And he’s right but it’s
important because that’s not what this is. What it is about is being okay with
being wrong or backwards or overshooting with all the love I might have to
give. I love boxing, I could never do it but I can imagine stepping into the
ring and instead of being hit being prepared to be wrong. There’s a saying at
my job where if a guest has a question we don’t know the answer to we say ‘I
don’t know but let’s find out together’ maybe its bigger than working in a
theme park and maybe that’s a piece of advice I should heed even if I’m not
dressed like a sideshow freak.
The Activity: The
challenge is to reflect on times that I’ve been wrong and rethink the
consequences and realize most of them were no big. And think about times when I
thought one thing would happen and something else did. And think about how a
disagreement I might have had led to difference in perspective and the values
of those perspectives.
Second, here’s the tricky part.
>Have the Courage to tell your whole story with your
full heart.
>Have the compassion to love yourself love that you fucked up the numbers last night.
>Here's what you're missing. Just be authentic forget what you need to be here's the real challenge.
>Try not numb myself with any drugs or alcohol. I also will not perfect for the sake of not being vulnerable.
> Love with your whole heart.
> Let yourself be seen.
> Practice gratitude and joy and not in the great moments in the awful ones.
> And remember that I am enough
Fucking crazy right?
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